Like most of us, I have in the past had upsets with close relatives but unfortunately there is one person who refuses to meet me half way over something he got involved in years ago which was nothing to do with him.

He sees me as a negative judgemental person… which many years ago I would agree I was… most of the time! However a recent incident made me realise that I was dropping back into that behaviour pattern with him… I needed to understand why so that I could change the way I react to him which would hopefully change the way he reacts to me! He has completely turned his back on me and refuses to meet me half way.

I used a meditation from David Wells book Past Present Future to access the Akashic Records and found myself back in a life in Siberia (which I was already aware of from some healing that my reiki master and I did on me back in August last year). This person was my son and was stubborn, awkward and disrespectful. I watched as I was continually trying to guide him into being a more pleasant person but he didn’t like me correcting me… he felt I was judging him.

I had a reiki session today with my reiki master who asked for information on any past life with this person that was pertinent to the current issues. She was told that I was his wife in one life and he was a lot older than me. She felt I was his second wife and that his first wife had died. He accused me of having an affair with someone (interestingly someone who is very dear to me in this life and has just started reappearing in my life) but I wasn’t having an affair with this man we were just good friends. I knew not to overstep the line. My reiki master felt that there were more feelings from the man but that I wouldn’t allow things to happen as I was married. Anyway my husband turned on me completely overnight and kept doing and saying things to try and catch me out… a bit like he is doing in this life.

Armed with this knowledge, I realise that this is a very old behaviour pattern that both of us have brought through from previous lives. I feel that in this life this person is very resentful and jealous of me (goodness knows why really!) and I can see that these emotions have been brought through and added to in this life.

I can see that I cannot change him but that all I can do is step back, continue to heal myself and send healing to him and those past lives. I have cut the ties which will have released the negative ties and is making it easier to break contact for the moment. As this person is a close family member I trust that one day we will resolve the issues between us but it will only happen if he is willing to heal himself.

Having this insight to one or two past lives can really change your perspective on things and help you to move forward in a more positive way. I know that now if he does anything that irritates me that I just won’t react… and that will show me that I have healed my pain and negative feelings towards this person!