The more that I have worked with Cosmic Heart and the deeper the energies have been able to go into the client’s energy, the more that I have come to understand that when we are attracting the wrong people into our lives it is because there is something deep within us that needs to be healed.
Most people’s relationships are karmic and essentially need to be healed to bring the relationship back to a state of balance and harmony. The more healings I have facilitated to help people to heal their relationships with others, the more that I have come to understand that what we see in the physical world is just the tip of the iceberg energetically. My understanding now is that we have all had thousands of lifetimes and will have connected with many people over and over again, all be it in slightly different roles. We will have agreed to learn certain lessons but often, for one reason or another we don’t learn the lesson and so we end up repeating it time after time. This creates a lot of negative energy buried deep within us which will then draw in more of the same until we do the deep healing work.
When I am facilitating the healing of those in abusive relationships, what I see is a tangled mess of negative energy going between them, that needs to be cleared. They are usually hooked into each other, where one or other of them has tried to take power away from the other person or tried to have power over them. They have had many many lifetimes together where there has been abuse that needs to be cleared for the relationship to shift and for the people concerned to be able to see a heart led way forward.
We are like magnets and so we draw in people where deep healing needs to take place so that we don’t repeat the same scenario again. Unfortunately most people don’t realise that they need to change the way that they respond to a person, that they need to open their heart to them and send them love and forgiveness so that they can release the toxic energy between them and see the relationship for what it truly is. This is because when we reincarnate are energy has been compressed so that we cant remember what happened the previous time and how we dealt with it. It is only when deep healing has taken place that we can gain clarity about the authenticity of a relationship.
Talking therapies such as counselling and life coaching can give some insight and help to change but often the changes aren’t permanent. For real change to take place the energy work needs to be done so that the negative energies of all the related past lives are cleared which also will help to clear the patterning and programming ( negative beliefs) and so allow a natural change and a new way of being. Changing the way that we behave should be effortless but often it takes lots of effort as the belief systems that need changing are so heavily ingrained within the energy system that we can change things for a while when we are conscious of what needs changing but then we slip back into old habits and patterns as soon as we stop thinking consciously about our behaviours.
I have experienced being in relationships that haven’t been right for me and wondered why I have even drawn them in and then when I have done the healing work, have found many lifetimes that have needed clearing of negative energy for the changes I have wanted to be brought into my reality. Discovering the past lives that I have experienced has given me a greater understanding of why I have experienced the relationships I have in this lifetime. Healing the past lives that we have experienced with people helps to clear the attachment, allowing us to be true to ourselves and be our true selves.
When there is attachment, and this is an energetic attachment, relating to previous experiences together, then there is usually a need to control coming from one or both people in the relationship. This is why we have so many people with power struggles going on. Most people try to make themselves feel better by taking another person’s power away and draining them energetically. What they haven’t understood is that to feel better we need to go inward and heal the issues that we have with the other person so that we can let go of all the toxic energy that is affecting us and so let go of attachment.
I listen to the way that people talk to me about their partner as it will give me clues as to how healthy the relationship is. For example; if they talk about their ‘other half’ then that is usually a big indication of a lot of attachment as they see themselves as incomplete without the other person. If they talk about their ‘better half’ then they see themselves as inferior to their partner.
Clearing the energy on a deep level by clearing the negativity from the past lives connecting you, is key for you to be able to be your true self, be true to yourself and create an authentic relationship with the other person. When a relationship is authentic, there is no longer any attachment and you will gain clarity of whether it is a relationship that you want to continue with or one that you need to walk away from.
If the healing work isn’t done and you just walk away from a toxic relationship, you will draw in the same issues again with someone else until you address things differently and allow the healing that is needed to take place.
Healing our relationships with others is a key part of us moving forward and raising our vibration. It allows us to open our hearts more fully and look at people with compassion, understanding that we are each on our own journey of rediscovering the energies of unconditional love. When we are on our own journey there can be no attachment to others. When people are in a truly authentic relationship they recognise that they are each on their own journey back to being heart led and that they have agreed to walk side by side for all or part of that journey.
Decompressing your energy by having Cosmic Heart healing sessions is the first step towards facilitating the deep healing that is required when healing relationships. If you are in a relationship where you aren’t able to be your true self and aren’t able to be true to yourself then consider having some Cosmic Heart healing sessions to help to clear the negativity between you and free both of you up from the negative energy that has linked you for many lifetimes so that you can both see a way forward that allows you to be authentic and your relationship to be authentic. Distant healing works just as well as in person sessions, so if you are unable to come and see me in person consider having some remote sessions.
The changing energies of the planet and indeed the universe are bringing issues to the surface for people especially within the relationships of all those they love. The universe is pushing people to heal their relationships as we are now moving into a time when we must be authentic, where we need to move into the heart and love unconditionally and be compassionate to all those around us. Being compassionate doesn’t mean that you allow people to walk over you, it means that you are able to see the situation from a higher perspective and understand that another person may not be at the same level of consciousness as you are and still has things to learn to get there. It is recognising when to be supportive and when walking away is the best option so that the other person can grow too.
One of my clients recently told me that she was having a lot of issues with her ex-partner who would flip form being nice one minute to super aggressive the next. She told me that she recognised that this was to do with his pain which as she is relatively young, I felt was very insightful. Because of the many many lifetimes that we have all had each of us carries a lot of pain that needs to be healed. If it isn’t it gets pushed deep into the energy, compressing it further and possibly manifesting a dis-ease in the future.
When you are reawakening to your true self, you recognise that the only way to bring balance and harmony back onto your relationships is to bring it back into your relationship with yourself first and do the deep healing to clear the negativity with those around you. We cannot truly love others unconditionally until we love ourselves, so true healing always begins by recognising what the mirror of the universe is showing us and going inward and healing ourselves first!
