The words ‘Never Judge a Book by its Cover’ are a bit of a cliche but these words came to me after a conversation with a friend about my relationship with my Mother. Mum and I have never had the best relationship although it is much better now than it ever was. It was talking to a dear friend recently that helped me to see things from a different perspective with love and compassion. I don’t condone the way I was treated at various times of my life but what I have now is fresh insight as to the underlying reasons for my Mother being the way that she is.

I realised a long time ago that my Mother lives from a place of fear, using religion as her support. She has gradually developed all sorts of medical problems because of the amount of negativity she has stored inside herself and because of this she has been challenging to say the least over the years.

I have always wanted to have a close relationship with my Mum but it was not to be in this life, however I have ensured that I have the relationship I wanted with my Mum with my daughter instead (although for us to be where we are, my daughter and I have had to go through some challenging times as well!).

I have known for some time now that we choose our parents as they are going to be the people who will be able to teach us what we need to learn. Indeed there are many dysfunctional families out in the world these days and ours is one of them, as there is karma to clear and relationships with our soul family to bring back into balance. Choosing our parents may be a difficult concept to get your head around as who would want to choose to live in a family where there is poverty or abuse but it is necessary for each of us to experience all these sorts of situations as well as the good times as without them there would be no growth. The spiritual laws are such that we must experience both ends of the spectrum to bring us back to a place of balance, so if we have been abused in one life then we will be an abuser in another life. If we have been destitute in one life then we will be rich in another.

Life on Earth is all about balance and we are here to bring ourselves back to a place of balance as we clear our karma. Karma too is often misunderstood. It is not Divine retribution, it is like a set of scales constantly being tipped and needing to be brought back to the central point. When we learn to work from a place of love with compassion it is much easier for us to balance any negative karma that we may have built up over lifetimes.

My Mother and I will be balancing karma in this life so it is quite possible that the boot has been on the other foot so to speak or if it hasn’t yet then it may well be in a future life. Sometimes we need someone outside of a situation to make us stop and think about the influences that would make someone work from such a great place of fear and thats exactly how my friend helped me recently.

She made me realise that my Mother’s world would have been turned upside down with the things that I am aware of which happened to her in this life. Interestingly today I have received further information about a past life of my mums which has had a huge effect on her and indeed our whole family. This has caused a huge amount of karma for her and the beliefs that she was given in that life are not ones of love and light.

There is a huge amount of healing that needs to be done, which the angels have told me they will help me to do which will heal that life for her. She is not open to healing on a conscious level and I now understand why but I have been told that if I connect with her before what happened to her happened in the life she had in medieval times I will be able to help her and the rest of my family clear the energies that have caused us to be so dysfunctional.

It remains to be seen the effect this will have on us as a family but I know that whatever happens will be for the highest good. I also know that prior to this life in medieval times she was a very beautiful soul working for the light with love. My role is to help heal this so that she ( and the rest of my family) can move forward  without the energetic ties and bonds that are currently in place.

Healing ancestral issues can be just as important as healing your own current issues and will not only help to heal you and the close relationships around you but will also affect all those in your ancestral line who have gone before you and all those who are yet to come.

Healing is so important and always starts with the self. It is so much more than the physical body and can involve lifetimes of issues that have been carried through from one life to another.

I now have great insight into why my mother is the way she is thanks to two lovely friends and I am being given a way to help her and the rest of my family by the beautiful angels who work with me. I feel very privileged and blessed to be able to do this work for the highest good of all.